What is a Toxic Personality?

As one of our clients states:

“The day that guy left the company is still considered a celebration day!”

A toxic personailty is “anyone who manages to drag you down, make you feel angry, worn out, deflated, belittled or confused.”

A person with a toxic personality will excel at operating the manipulation games that form the basis of the Drama Triangle (see link at the bottom of this page).

The Drama Triangle is a place where I’m OK / You’re not OK and also I’m not OK / You’re OK. Games are played and manipulation is the key to success. Blame is rife, even in a ‘no blame culture’! Aggression, including passive aggression, is at the core of team dynamics where there is either an excess of challenging or an excess of support. Organisationally there is a lack of engagement and a high level of sickness and absence.

All it takes is one individual with a ‘toxic’ personality who is adept at playing the games of the Drama Triangle to wreak havoc on the organisation. As the organisation gets on doing what it does without addressing the spreading virus more and more dysfunction becomes the norm.

For those in the immediate sphere of the toxic person, not dealing with the toxic behaviour is easier than tackling it. Either way, ignoring this behaviour or tackling this behaviour ‘head on’ tends to result in more toxic behaviour! Any attempt to tackle this person is effectively like a fly inadvertently finding itself on a spiders web…it’s only a matter of time before you become so tangled up you become a helpless victim.

The Drama Triangle – Home of the Toxic Personality